👋🏻 Hiya, 2019! 👋🏻 Let’s cut to the chase: I don’t like you. Well, not you specifically, but the start of a new year in general. Don’t get me wrong, I love scrolling through aesthetically-pleasing Pinterest quotes, preemptively dreading the Summer months and picking out my 12th new notebook to help organize my life as much as the next gal; but when that’s tinged with insecurity and an unsettling feeling towards what I will (or won’t) achieve in the next 365? Gah, I just don’t feel like putting that in my basket.
We’re drip-fed this idea that January’s the month to get your ‘ish together but it’s a month that often leaves me feeling like an unpopped party popper in the hands of a probably should’ve stopped after jager-bomb #5 boyfriend on NYE. Now, 22 days in the new year, the fog has lifted and it’s time to start thinking about getting that proverbial bread. 🍞🥖
The thing I’ve learnt since last year’s attempts at setting goals for myself is that a) sometimes less is more, it’s very unlikely that I’ll be able to achieve everything I set out to do, b) I was tad ambitious when taking on my blog, YouTube, finishing my degree all in one year (and by tad I mean hi past Becca what the heck were you thinking?) and c) goals don’t have to be these mahoosive, life-altering things; achieving even the smallest of goals is a step in the right direction.
Another lesson from last year’s goal-making shenanigans is that I need 👏🏻 structure👏🏻. I need to be held accountable for my slip-ups (within reason however because hey we’re humans, we mess up sometimes), and my head held in the right direction (and not focusing on notebook #13). It’s because of this that I’ve tackled this year’s goals a little differently.
Inspired by the ultimate girl crush, Victoria, I’ve split this year’s goals into 4 categories – physical, mental, personal and professional – bundled them all up and packaged them in an easily digestible self-care and well-being package for the year ahead.
Enough of the rambling (probably should’ve added that to this year’s list), let’s wrap this intro up and get into it!
The ‘easiest’ of the four on my list – but by no means a walk in the park – is making the right decisions when it comes to my physical self. A roller coaster that would terrify even the biggest of adrenaline junkies, my relationship with my body hasn’t been the smoothest.
This year I want to take care of the little things; taking that extra time in the mornings and evenings to go through my skincare routine (read: actually get a skincare routine and not just whatever’s the cheapest in Boots), developing a better quality of sleep – an environment where I feel like my body and mind can truly unwind from long working days – and maybe putting down the custard creams from time to time in favor of getting myself up and moving. A big help with digesting (badum tssh) the latter part of this goal has been my wonderful friend, Sophie and her post on losing weight and doing it her way.
From previous experience, jumping in all dumbells blazing is a big *no no* and more importantly, often has a more detrimental impact on my physical/mental health. So don’t expect me to become a #gymgal with a strong supply of superfood running through my veins overnight, but just a lil bit healthier, a lil bit less made up of roast potatoes and hopefully a heck of a lot happier.
Speaking of being a heck of a lot happier, let’s talk mental health. On the surface, 2018 was an incredible year; however, it was also a year where my brain permanently felt like soup, my skin care routine was simply wiping away a face full of tears and stained cheeks with it, and well it was just a bit pants for my ol’ noggin.
This year is about taking more ‘me’ time and putting the same effort into my mental health as my physical. Like a good moisturizer, it’s important to allow time for your brain to absorb what’s going on around you (a topic I’ll be covering in a future post) and giving it time to recharge and rejuvenate. It’s about spending time listening to what your brain is doing and giving it the best food to keep going – spending time with loved ones, watching your favourite show on repeat for the 3rd time, having that bubble bath with all the bells and whistles. It’s also about accepting the fact that sometimes the best thing to do for your brain is absolutely nothing at all.
Whilst it appears that this is just an excuse to buy everything from Lush and scroll through Netflix on the daily, it’s important for me to understand that by taking these steps to bettering my mental health, every other aspect of my life will grow from there.
A culmination of the above categories, ‘Personal’ is encompassing everything that makes Becca, Becca. It’s about reigniting old loves and immersing myself in the pages of good books; it’s about getting myself up and about doing the things that I love doing. Visiting friends, going on adventures with family and creating (even more) amazing memories with Connor, this year is about doing more of that. Hopping on a train and going on adventure for the heck of it, seeing something for a friend and sending it to them just because and tackling family plans that I’ve been going on about since I was 18.
It’s about learning new things, visiting new places and understanding that there’s more to life than my comfort zone (and subsequently that my world won’t end if I step foot outside of it). Like my mental health, bettering my personal life, and thus my mental health with it, will do nothing but keep my heart and soul happy.
Last year was an interesting one in terms of my ‘professional self’. I worked my butt off to achieve my degree but other than that my professional life flat-lined. As I discussed in my post-grad life blog post, I don’t have a clue what I’m doing. This year, therefore, is about figuring that out. It’s about saying yes to more opportunities and not getting disheartened by rejections and unanswered emails. It’s about understanding that this is my life and my future – and the success of my peers, albeit incredible, shouldn’t be the definition of mine.
I think the best way to sum up my feelings towards what I’d like to achieve professionally this year is to take a leaf – or a quote – out of past Becca’s book:
“No matter whether I’m working in fashion, music, social media or the blogosphere, there’s no doubt in my mind that as long as I’m healthy, happy and creative – I’m a happy bunny. My time at university more than anything, has proven to me that I have a voice – the thoughts and feelings that have remained under lock and key in my mind can become something that other people want to hear, watch or read. With that, all I can do is take it and run head first at the opportunities I try and create for myself.”
So I’m throwing it out to ya universe, this is what I hope to achieve over the next year. Let me know some of your goals/resolutions/just general bits and bobs you wanna work towards in the next year but remember, life doesn’t suddenly come to an end if you haven’t stuck to your 30-day workout challenges, ritualistic skincare routine or like me, learning to take a chill pill – whatever your goals, whatever your time frame, WE’VE GOT THIS 💪🏻